Felt sad, might overanalyze and delete later.
I touched on this in a previous post, but it’s been on my mind a lot, so I wanted to share. I’m noticing how friendships change after having a baby. I knew this could happen, but I didn’t expect it to happen so fast or to hurt this much. I get that I’m less available, less flexible. But I still try to make time for my friends, some of whom don’t seem to want to do the same for me anymore. Sounds bitter, I know. And it is.
Some don’t show any interest in me as a mother or in Sam. I get that not everyone is into babies or the whole motherhood experience, but how is asking about this any different from asking about my husband, dogs, job, or the latest show I’m obsessed with? It’s a big part of my life now, but also, I swear I’m still the same person.
I don’t get why kids are where people draw the line. They’ll take interest in the most random parts of my life, but the moment I mention Sam, they disappear.
I know friendships change at different stages of life. I’ve been through this before when I switched universities, when I moved to new countries. Sometimes you just grow apart with people. But having a baby feels like the ultimate friendship stress test.
Or maybe I’m just overthinking it, ha.